This is probably one of the hardest posts I have ever wrote, I have no idea were to begin to describe the week our family has had. The pain we are going through or how much our world has changed so bare with me if your reading this because I have no idea how to write this but ill keep it brief and to the point.
On Saturday 4 March 2017 in the afternoon my husband and I watched as his mother passed away. She was terminally ill with Cancer, however it came as a shock to the family as we thought we had more time, she showed no signs of it being the end. Even that very morning on the day she died she was sitting up talking to people in the nursing home she was in. It was truly the hardest thing I have ever had to watch. It was quiet and peaceful and there was only my husband and I in the room when it happened.My husband was holding her hand by her bedside and it broke my heart when he fell to the floor crying.The doctor then came in and confirmed what we already knew. My father-in-law arrived after it happened, it all happened so fast and it was lucky that we ourselves even made it. I remember standing outside making calls when he arrived and he could tell from my face what had happened, he came over to me and I hugged him saying ‘am so sorry….shes gone’ as we both started crying.
We all sat round her bed for a few hours after while various people came in and out to check on us. Our minister came in, my father came in and some other family members but the rest of the day is mostly a blur now to be honest.When the undertakers arrived and we had to say goodbye it was so hard, how do you say goodbye to someone your never going to be with again.How do you let go. Watching my husband and his 87 year old father say goodbye broke my heart, after all that was his wife he had lost, i can’t imagine how he must have felt.
The next day we went and collected the kids from there grannys (my mum) and sat them down to tell them what had happened although by that I mean we told our 8 year old daughter as the toddler would have no clue whats going on. She took it well and had known that her granny was ill and in a nursing home for a while.
The funeral was held on Wednesday 8th March 2017. We chose not to bring the kids as it wasn’t really appropriate in our opinion and my husband didn’t want our kids to see him that badly upset because it would have upset them too. It truly was a hard day for us all and I had felt sick with nervous as I was getting up to do the eulogy. I am glad say that i managed to read it all clearly without breaking down although a few time i was close, afterward when i walked back to my seat the whole room clapped with i wasn’t expecting so I like to think that my mother-in-law would be proud of me and hopefully i did her good.
Cancer is an awful disease and it has truly hurt our family watching as my husbands mother suffered with it for months. The only comfort we have now she is that she is in no more pain and she is no longer suffering. We all miss her dearly and will never forget the memories we have of her.
This week we had lots of fun making pancakes on pancake day. It got lovely and messy in the kitchen when the toddler joined in but he sure enjoyed being part of it, he loved helping to stir the pancake mix and he even tasted it (yuk what was he thinking). We made that many pancakes that we didn’t even have dinner that night and my daughter even went to her brownies club that evening and made even more pancakes. I think I have eaten enough to do me until next year.
World Book day was also this week and this year my daughter choose to dress up as belle from beauty and the beast as she’s excited for the new live action movie coming out soon and she has been reading her beauty and the beast book at home. This is also one of my favourite Disney movie’s as a child. So that morning when I was helping her get all dressed up we were both dancing around the living room to the soundtrack of the movie like two crazy people, and even the little man joined in too with half his cereal split down his pjs.(Rolls eyes)
Hubby and I had a bit of a fright this week because our toddler showed us he can climb up the ladder on his sisters bed all the way to the top! They were both playing in the bed room and we were in the next room then all of a sudden we heard our daughter shouting that the wee man was climbing up the ladders so hubby run in and couldn’t believe the little man had actually climbed to the top. He’s getting more daring everyday at this rate i will need to baby gate our daughters room too.
This week our toddler group moved to a nice new building and once we got inside my toddler seen all the toys and wouldn’t have even known it was a different place. They had a nice new selection of toys for the kids to play with so needless to say he had a great time and he seemed to totally fall in love the the little tikes car.
So this past weekend we attended a Star Wars type convention with the kids and they had a great time and were both well behaved throughout the whole day which was a big plus.My hubby is a massive star wars fan and had been dying to go to this for weeks. It was well put together inside the place and there was lots of characters all dressed up from the movies.As you walked around the place you could take pictures with the various characters and there was backdrops behind each of them with different scenes from the movies which i think give it that extra touch. It wasn’t easy getting the toddler to take pictures with any of the characters as he was a bit freaked out by them and only seem to like them at the distance and as soon as he got close to any he would grab on to one of us.During the day they put on a little parade of all the star wars characters that were dressed up and put on a tribute on the big screen to the late Carrie Fisher (Princess Leia) and Kenny Baker (R2D2) which was really lovely to watch.I really don’t know who had more fun the kids or my hubby.
This week my mother was taken into hospital so that was a little dramatic but thankfully nothing too serious when I went up to visit her and she got home after a few days in there. I also went to visit my mother in law in the nursing home too, its some what of a routine between us now to go over and visit her as she can have good and bad days with her illness along with her meds making her extremely anxious and confused a lot so needless to say it can be a bit of a challenge with her at times.
One of my highlights this week was when my little man curled up with me in bed watching tv and fell asleep in my arms, this is something that doesn’t normally happen and it was nice to have cuddles with him for a change. Since he’s got bigger he’s not so much into cuddles like was when he was a baby although he always likes to give hugs to any family or friends that visit providing he’s not in terrible twos melt down mode.
Happy Friday and Enjoy the Weekend
Its been quite a busy week with lots going and my daughter is off for half term so I have been trying to keep her and her bother busy.
Over the weekend it was mine and hubbys Wedding anniversary. We hadn’t really made any big plans for it but we decided to take the kids out to the forest for a little walk and some lunch. They both had a great time and feel asleep on the car journey home. That evening hubby decided that he would cook for us since it was a special day so I put the kids to bed then he called me downstairs for dinner, I walked into the room and was completely surprised, he had set the table all set up with candles and a lovely red table cloth. It was such a lovely surprise and isn’t something he would normally do. The meal was gorgeous and it defiantly made the day complete.
On Valentines day we decided to take the kids out shopping and for some lunch at Yo Sushi, we all love eating sushi and this is defiantly one of our favourite restaurants. So it was a nice little treat for us all. Since it was valentines day we give our kids a little card to make them feel special and feel part of the day.
The rest of the week was pretty quiet as the weather wasn’t the best to be venturing out anywhere so the kids and I enjoyed some movies and cuddles.
I decided that I would start writing a weekly round up about whats been going on in our family life and maybe someday we can look back on these memories. So here goes.
This past weekend we decided on a trip to the garden centre which was holding a gardening club for kids. We had never taken them to it before and heard its on each Saturday at the start of the month so I decided we would go and try it. Its about 45 minutes drive way to get there. My dad lives up close to the garden centre so it meant we could take the kids to see there grandad at the same time.
The kids gardening club was amazing they really had thought of everything. When we went in they give each of the kids a plastic plant pot to sit and decorate. They had tables set up with glues, glitters,stitters and also sort of crafting type things. After the kids were done they were taken up stairs in groups to the main part of the centre were they got given soil in there pot and got to plant two shallots in them. They were both thrilled. Afterwards the kids were all brought up to the back part of the cafe were they got to wash there hands before getting given a glass of water and a biscuit each so needless today this kept my two happy.
After the gardening centre fun we popped to the shopping centre for a look around and for some lunch before heading over to visit grandad.
Sunday was a lazy family day and of course there was getting organised for school the next day.
The rest of the week wasn’t as exciting, just our usual routine of school for my daughter and her ballet classes and brownies during the week.
Mid week I took my father in law over the nursing home to visit his wife (My Mother in law). She’s ill so is currently in a home for the mean time.
This week my son enjoyed his session in mums and tots, I think it really helps him to get to play with other kids his age and I love chatting getting to all the other mums and good to know your not alone with this whole parenting thing and we all have are good and bad days.
Anyways thats my round up for this week, Thanks for reading.
This Chinese New Year is The Year of the Rooster and begins on Saturday January 28 and lasts until February 15th, 2018. The new year, also known as the Spring Festival, is marked by the lunisolar Chinese calendar, so the date changes each year.
Every Chinese New Year is characterised by one of 12 animals which appear in the Chinese zodiac. The Chinese zodiac is divided into 12 blocks (or houses) , but with the major difference being that each house has a time-length of one year instead of one month.
This year it’s the Year of the Rooster, which is the tenth animal in the cycle. The next Year of the Rooster won’t be until 2029.
So this Chinese new year I decided to teach my daughter what it was about and how it is different from our tradition new year calendar and in doing so we decided to make it fun by having our own little feast of Chinese food to celebrate the Chinese new year in our own way. Its important to me to teach our kids about different cultures and to enjoy and respect each and everyones beliefs.
At the dinner table we leant how to say a few basic words in Chinese like thank you,hello and your welcome. (Of course I used google for this one and was it funny watching hubby and my daughter trying to pronounce the words) We also learnt a few facts such as that Firecrackers are popular during the Chinese New Year as they are thought to scare off evil spirits.
The little feast we served up consisted of homemade Hot & Sour Soup, Pork char siu,Noodles,Rice,Plain Chicken Chunks (mainly for the toddler) and duck with a plum sauce. We also had prawn crackers and chinese green tea on the table and some fortune cookies for afterwards.
It all went down a treat and I even got our little man to try the green tea and he seemed to not hate the taste or spit it out. Our daughter on the other hand wasn’t impressed with it and didn’t like the taste.
Heres a few Pictures of what we enjoyed
Happy Chinese New Year 2017 – May you live a long and healthy life.
In the run up to Christmas we have been enjoying some lovely festive days out together and getting the kids very excited for Santa coming so I thought I would share what we have been up to.
The first weekend in December we took the kids to our local Christmas continental market. We always love going to this year as they have so much to offer from food, handcrafted items and holiday treats such as mulled wine and festive coffees. It was beautifully lit up with fairy lights along the stalls and in the centre of the market was a huge Christmas tree.While we were visiting we decided to try some of the food. I chose the hog roast dinner and hubby chose paella with sweet potato chips as its our toddlers favourite. Food was amazing and there wasn’t a piece left in anyones box and no fighting from the kids as they happily scoffed the lot.
The second weekend in December we went to a church which was about 45 minutes drive from were we live as they were holding a special Christmas event called ‘The Wonder of Christmas experience’. It was the first year they had held it so we decided to go and check it out and we are glad that we did as it totally amazing and well thought out for the kids. The cost was only £5 in per family and an additional £2 per child to see Santa which was more than worth it as all the money raised was going to charity.They had a room set up with Christmas trees all around it and white back drops and standing at each backdrop was different children’s characters from batman,spiderman,paw patrol,mickey and mini mouse,disney princesses and the characters from frozen which is our daughters favourite. Our little man however was a little nervous around the characters and wasn’t keen on getting close enough for any photos but he was totally amused and loved giving them all high 5. In a large hall they had stalls set up selling handcrafted items such as soaps, jewellery and candles. Then in another hall there was various food stalls set up selling thing such as burgers, hotdogs and chips which brings me to the best part, the visit to see Santa Claus. To see Santa we were taken on a short little train ride over too were they had a private little shed were Santa was waiting inside. When it was our turn to go in and see Santa our daughter was so excited telling Santa what she wanted for Christmas but our little man was a bit frightened of Santa and wouldn’t even take the little present of him but then again most toddlers are probably a little freaked out going to see this big guy with a white beard in a big red suit. I managed to get one photo of Santa and our daughter but the little man was having none of it. The whole thing was definitely a enjoyable experience and i hope they do it again next year.
The third weekend in December which was the last before Christmas we went to see our daughter in two different nativity plays. The first was done by her school were she was dressed up as an angel and had a few lines to learn (which took us about week to get right) and on the day she did them amazingly and both myself and hubby were so proud of her. The other nativity she was in was at our local church we attend and this time she was dressed up as a cow which she wasn’t very impressed at but what can you do lol. They told the nativity story from the animals point of view which is why all the kids were dressed up as different animals but they were all so cute in there little outfits.
Going to all these different festive activities definitely made it feel like Christmas for us and am sure it got the kids excited for the build up to Santa.
Merry Christmas Everyone and a Happy New Year!